7 Ways to Overcome Self-Criticism

 


Have you ever been ready to do something when that voice within your head begins to speak? What were you thinking at the time? That you're a terrible person. Nobody wants to speak with you? You will never be successful in life?

Your inner voice is that unpleasant voice within your head that condemns, criticises, or belittles you. Your inner critic has a big influence on how you see yourself and how confident you are. You may feel ashamed, useless, or start to have low self-esteem if you don't know how to deal with your inner critic. Your inner critic may try to undermine everything you've achieved. Self-doubt and lack of confidence might be the result from that harsh inner critic. When you allow your inner critic to govern too many of your actions, it might prevent you from achieving your full potential, growth, and connections with others. Even though the way we think has an impact on how we act, our thoughts are not always right. Never forget that you become what you think.

To deal with your inner critic and regain control of your life, use the following seven strategies:

1. Recognize and acknowledge. Recognize and acknowledge negative ideas when they arise. Try to figure out where your thoughts are coming from and what is causing them.

What age do I currently feel?

Why am I in such a bad mood?

What are some of the patterns I've noticed?

Where did these ideas come from?

What impact do these thoughts have on my actions?

2. What advice would you give a close friend in this situation? Think of what advice you would give to a close friend who are in the same circumstances as you are. We are often harsher on ourselves than we are on others.

3. Distinguish between facts and emotions. It's possible that your brain is programmed through self-talk to believe that no one wants to speak with you or that you're a nasty person. Is this, however, a fact? Sorting facts and feelings is a good exercise. What is another, more optimistic perspective you could take on the situation?

4. Develop self-acceptance and compassion for yourself. Replace critical or negative ideas with ones that are accepting and caring. Instead of surrendering to negative beliefs, have a list of empowering, caring beliefs to tell yourself.

5. Make a list of optimistic thoughts. What does your inner critic say when it comes out? What can you do to confront your inner critic?

Make a list of the moments in your life when others have said kind things about you. Concentrate on your strengths and what you excel at.

6. If you find yourself rehearsing blunders in your thoughts, try to distract yourself. Have you ever made a mistake and found yourself replaying the events over and over? That does not address the problem. Distract yourself from such thoughts if you find yourself ruminating instead of actively problem-solving.

Take a stroll.

Read a book if you haven't already.

Take a look at a podcast.

Play a game with your friends.

Cuddle with your pet.

7. Remind yourself that you are not alone in having an inner critic. It is a natural human function to have an inner critic. It originates in the portions of our brain that have developed to protect us. If you find yourself in a loop of critical thoughts, remember that everyone has self-doubt at some point in their lives.

You don't have to let your inner critic run your life! These techniques can help you grow and extend your horizons by quieting your inner critic and cultivating a more empowering inner dialogue.

Remember there's a difference between listening to that negative voice that tells you you're not good enough and genuinely wanting to improve yourself. Use the suggestions above to quiet your inner critic and to achieve your maximum potential.

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